Master : “Mainly used in context of master/slave relationships where Master is dominant in every way – especially in bed. Master will often use pain as a method of control, torture and/or pleasure depending on his slave. This pain can be physical, mental or emotional” – Urban Dictionary
BDSM: Bondage. Discipline/Dominance, Sadism/Submission & Masochism.
Written By SNK
Random followers are not uncommon on any social media platform. I usually ignore accounts run by people I don’t recognize. But for some reason, even days after being followed by Master Jay Hodge, I couldn’t stop wondering…who is this guy?
A private ‘women only’ instagram account run by a Dom? I must admit I had my suspicions at first. Those suspicions grew after he accepted my follow back request. To protect and honour his privacy I will not discuss the content of his account. But I will share one thing, not a single photo of his face. Not a glimpse. But quite quickly after actually speaking to Master Jay Hodge, my suspicions were settled and now I was just full of intrigue.
I was expecting badgering DMs for nudes or God forbid, unwarranted nudes sent to me. At the very least I was expecting seedy and inappropriate comments. But, Never. Not once. In fact, I was the one initiating conversations and the conversations just flowed. I was full of questions and he always answered openly and honestly. It sort of clicked to me why thousands of women felt comfortable interacting with the faceless account that is Master Jay Hodge. He’s just a normal guy. Just a normal guy who enjoys BDSM and enjoys sharing what he enjoys with others who feel the same.
How did you come up with your name?
It was given to me by a sub. I was online and my name was just some bunch of numbers. I can’t exactly remember the reason but I know it was linked to something she was into.
When did you realize that domination was something you enjoy?
I’ve been sexually extreme since I can remember. The more I pushed boundaries the more I liked it. It wasn’t until I met a sub that I realized what I was doing was actually a thing.
What does being a Dom mean or entail for you?
Being Dom is like a hobby. For me personally it’s a sexual thing. Although I use it selfishly to play out my fantasies, I’m aware of the responsibility I have not to take advantage of the trust given to me when power is handed over. It’s as much about the sub’s (submissive‘s) experience as it is mine.
Would you consider yourself a professional?
I honestly don’t take myself seriously enough to be professional at anything. I’ve never been part of “the (BDSM) scene”. I find that the people involved take themselves way too seriously and find that kinda annoying. I’ve pretty much been winging it if I’m honest, I make my own rules but my rules are built around the safety of myself and the subs. Given that, I’m probably more professional than 99% of Doms you’ll come across.
Do you consider being a Dom as a part of your everyday life or separate?
It’s completely separate. I have a long term partner that’s unaware. This is a secret second life. Everything is confidential. I’m discreet and careful. I give myself set time windows to be the Dom.
What sort of boundaries do you put in place to protect your personal life?
No one knows my real name, the exact town I’m in or have any other contact details apart from my Instagram and Snapchat.
Is it difficult handling both your personal relationships and the relationship you have with your subs?
No, not really. People think it’s impossible and don’t understand how I manage it. The best way to explain it is, having another friend that you text regularly and meet once a week. It’s really that simple.
Do you remember your first sub? What was it like?
It was with a girl I knew. We was out drinking and ended up at hers. The sex was rough as its always was with me. She done anal that night for the first time which turned into brutal anal and degrading ATM (ass to mouth). Once we’d finished she said “I never knew you was a Dom”. Neither did I!
What are some misconceptions you think people have about S/D relationships and BDSM in general? How would you answer them?
The obvious ones are that people are all creeps, abusers and perverts. Saying that if I’m honest, most of the ones I’ve come across are one of the three. The one that irritates me is that Doms take advantage of subs. It’s a subs world. “The scene” says it’s a power exchange that’s a 50/50 split, I disagree. The sub sets the boundaries, it’s their final say in how the session goes, they decide when it starts and when it stops. For me it’s all about the sub.
How do you ensure that the safety and consent of your subs are not compromised?
The basic lay out of the session is agreed upon in advance. We have a safe word. The safe word can be used to stop the session completely or to move on to another act. I take things slow. For example, having a gap between every strike where she must say “thank you Master”. This gap gives her a chance to say the safe word instead of the carry on trigger. Little things like that keep her in control of the session without interrupting its flow.
Can you list some of your kinks?
Impact play & degradation. Belting and face fucking are my favourite acts.
Can you give me an idea of what an average session look like for you?
The most coming session is the initiation session. It starts with the sub taking the centre of the room, stripping fully naked and into the inspection stance. Her hands and feet are tied or taped. She is belted across the agreed area of her body. The top target is 20 lashes, if she reaches the target then she is rewarded with her pussy eaten until she orgasms. After that she’ll get her face brutally fucked until completion which she is expected to swallow.
What advice would you give to someone who is new or interested in S/D?
Be careful. You need to be as close to 100% as you can to knowing you can trust the person you’re meeting. I have girls as young as 18 begging me to give them their first extreme session, asking me to tie them up. They have no idea who I am or what I’m capable of. It’s terrifying that these girls are willing to put themselves in that position. The Doms need to be just as careful. Make sure, as sure as you can that the sub knows what she’s asking for and agrees to everything first. The world is full of monsters and the human race is naturally evil. Be careful is the most important advice I can give.
Outside of being a Dom, how else do you spend your free time?
Football is more of an obsession than a hobby. If I had to pick between women and football, football would win. I have a season ticket to Tottenham Hotspur and I like to travel abroad to watch games and visit new cities. I coach a youth football team and going through the FA and UEFA coaching badges as well as the Talent ID pathway. I also still make music anonymously which 99% of people that know me irl don’t know about. Apart from that, I’m real big on family. Parents, sisters, niece and nephew. I like to spend as much time with them as possible.
You can find Master Jay Hodge on Instagram: @thehouseof_masterjayhodge & Snapchat: jay_masterhodge
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